Hi, i was contacted by a Russian lady whose name i would like to withold for now. She claimed to be from ZVENIGOVE, Russia, i like her so far and am hoping to contineu communicating with her. I have been able to send her strong hints about how much i am aware of the Nigerian scam artist and how much i hate it, we have exchanged few latters and lately she is coming close to the money topic but have not directly asked me for any money. I have been very careful of her. Having said all these, not all Russians and Nigerians are scammers and as much as i hate to assume that she may be a possible scammer, i also hate to loose the possibility of her being a sincere lady. If you want the name she had given to me from day one, i can have you check on it if need may be.Thanks.
anonymous from Moncton, Canada ...you're right that not all Russian girls are scammers. I've met several real Russian girls on the net, chatted with them, been to Russia twice in the last year, two of them have been to visit me in Stockholm, including my fiancée. Currently, we're waiting to see if her application for Swedish residency goes through.
ie...there's no reason to AUTOMATICALLY assume the worst.
However, you wouldn't be here if you weren't just a little bit wary. So I'm posting a few typical Russian scam signs. If several of these fit your girl, then I would assume she's a scam. And if you post an advanced header from one of her mails (delete the addresses if you like), I can trace her IP for you and confirm.
# 'girl' writes to you first on a dating site (or an email appears out of nowhere in your mailbox). Real Russian girls are rarely that bold. (unless you're very attractive or rich :). Plus if they're looking for a partner, they generally prefer him to be Russian speaking and live in Russia.
# girl's much too young for you (or too good to be true/looks like a model/porno star)
# scammers rarely have children, but all the real Russian women I've ever met did.
# photos are too revealing (can't be a respectable girl)
# most of the pics are old and a little bit faded. Most scam photos have a curiously grainy quality that soon becomes easy to recognise. A serious girl who's looking for a partner, would save up and go to a professional to have a photo set done, and/or borrow a digicam at least (dates should also be on the photos you receive). Russian girls aren't all that poor anymore.
# girl claims not to have a mobile phone. very unlikely. even poor girls have a mobile phone, they're much cheaper than in Europe and a megafon telephone card doesn't cost that much either. On the other hand, not having a landline or a computer is quite common.
# very long rambling/ecstatic form letters with a strange format, punctation, layout in scamlish. (world's worst Babelfish copy)
# writes everyday in English (how does she have time if she's working? + most Russians can hardly speak a word of English). Anyway, what's the point of finding a girl if you can't communicate with her, at least on a basic level?
# doesn't answer direct questions (sometimes factual mistakes in the letter)
# falls in love very quickly. Don't let your ego or loneliness pull the wool over your eyes. You could be an axe murderer for all she knows.
# wants money for a 'visa' and/or maybe tickets, even though she needs a personal letter of invitation from you, a copy of your passport, a proof of your residence in your home country, a completed sponsor's application form (also from you)....not including the documents that she has to fill in herself. All of these she has to drop off at your national embassy in Moscow WITH PREPAID TICKETS and wait 10 working days. Without these documents, it's impossible for 'her' to get a sponsored Schengen visa. Canada is almost as complicated. And normal tourist visas + costs would set her back 3000+ US dollars. Why should it be so easy for a gorgeous sexy girl just to jump on a plane and fall into bed with you? Be realistic.
NB...you should ckeck the Canadian embassy website in Moscow and check the visa prices and procedures.
# uses a proxy server to hide his/her location, ie a SOCKS server / GPRS Internet. if you can't trace 'her' IP, it's 100% scam. If she uses gmail, be suspicious too cos u won't be able to trace the IP. hotmail and yahoo are acceptable if she'll chat with you on messenger, otherwise why does she have a non-cyrillic email account?
these are just a few of the signs, but the mail thing is that it's standard practice for YOU to visit HER in Russia first. If she fobs you off with excuses then she's most likely a scammer.
Keep in touch!!!
Are you being scammed and this is your first visit here?